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DebbieinMissouri   in reply to single mom3   on

No money for Christmas.

 in response to blondi225...   I love your ideas! I so agree with everything you have said, many blessing to you and your children. My life is very similar to yours, and I see everyone stressing over gifts and Christmas money, this is the third year since I lost my husband that we have been giftless. We just are so happy to still have somewhere to live, and each other. Thank you for sharing :)
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DebbieinMissouri   in reply to SysBot   on

What's on your heart and mind today?

 in response to Atom Fallout...   Great! I posted in on my facebook page last night and again this morning and know there has already been some votes for you, good luck!
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DebbieinMissouri   in reply to SysBot   on

What's on your heart and mind today?

 in response to ablovepink...   My grandmother lives in Michigan and told me about a program that will donate you a car,
it is called mother waddles. MotherWaddles.org I had to go back and read your posts and your story. It sounds like you really have some very good things going for you, I know it is tough to
see others around you doing so well, but you have to think positive and make good things happen for you. There are so many people that are doing so much worse. Michigan is a really bad place to be
economically. If I was your age, and had someone that talented by my side, I would risk it all and
move to a larger city or state where you could have more opportunity. I know you can do this, because I did it. I took my children and sold everything we had to move to an area that had more work. We stayed in a hotel for the first times in our lives while I called about small apartments and got a job. I got 2 jobs, one near the hotel and one at the hotel. It is all about how you look at things, you have to stop thinking about how well everyone else is doing and focus on what you are going to do to make something happen. As far as the medical treatment goes for your pregnancy, medicaid usually does not take very long in Michigan. And if it helps, when I was pregnant and in a bad situation like yours, I did not get to go to the doctor for several months. If you stay healthy and take care of yourself you will be ok until you get to the doctor. Do you have any family near you? I don't see any mention of anyone. Where is your family or your fiance's family? You are so young to be going through this. You are going to be ok, you just have to keep telling yourself that every day. Giving up is not an option, make a better life for your family.
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DebbieinMissouri   in reply to SysBot   on

What's on your heart and mind today?

 in response to Atom Fallout...   I added your info to my facebook and spread the word, good luck with your wedding! I hope its beautiful!
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DebbieinMissouri   in reply to DebbieinMissouri   on

Today was a surprise

 in response to Starshine...   Thank Starshine, It does sound fishy! I don't get on here much, had to give up the internet and only get to the library once a month, but I always appreciate all of the time you spend here helping so many people find solutions. Have a nice weekend!
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DebbieinMissouri   in reply to babygirlsmomma   on

needs help

I am sorry in advance to the daily users that help so many people here for saying what I am about to say, but I myself have been in the same situation as other people here and giving your daughter electricity, gas and water is way more important that toys at Christmas. Me and my children have together agreed to put aside all of these things to maintain our home and stay warm during the winter, those gifts do no good to her if she does not have a home to enjoy them in. Again, I am sorry to say this but stop worrying about gifts and toys and take care of immediate needs for your children they will understand and you will be a stronger family for it.
Many blessings to you Debbie
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DebbieinMissouri   in reply to DebbieinMissouri   on

Today was a surprise

I feel so bad that there are so many people here needing help. I have had the same scenario 2 years in a row, get back to work and then 3 weeks before Christmas laid off. The worst part is that unemployment is getting harder to get, my employer actually denied our benefits even after we appealed saying that he offered us alternative work, which was going to his home individually to clean it. That is crazy, how can you go from working in an office doing accounting to becoming a servant in the bosses house. I guess if I did not have such a bad feeling about it, being alone there with him in the middle of nowhere I would clean his house, but who does that to people? My life just keeps getting stranger and stranger. We are all hanging in there, I do hope and pray daily that everyone here finds a way to meet their needs and that their prayers will be answered.
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DebbieinMissouri  

Today was a surprise

Sometimes saying outloud that you are happy and finally ok can be a curse :) I was so happy that we were all ok, only to find out today that the company I am working for is closing down. No notice, no nothing. I just want to hide under my blanket.
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DebbieinMissouri   in reply to SysBot   on

What's on your heart and mind today?

 in response to Erica67...   Hello Erica! I sent you a message but I am not sure if it worked correctly, I almost forgot how to send it private, so I hope it worked. I am off to bed, have a good night and a wonderful weekend!
Deb
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DebbieinMissouri   in reply to SysBot   on

What's on your heart and mind today?

Some might say my post is a little odd, but the last year sure has changed me alot. I look at the posts I made when I first came here over a year ago and cannot believe that I even wrote what I did. There are so many mom's here now where I was then and I am so thankful for this website. When I first posted I was in just a whirlwind that I simply did not know what to do. No Christmas presents for my children, a new divorce, laid off from my job, no heat, and no food. I really seemed hopeless and my first thoughts were someone out there will hear me and save me. I kept writing, hoping, praying and applying for new work. I went to so many interviews, some were a disaster, too far away, not enough gas, the hours were so bad I would never see my children. I finally found one though and even though it was only $110 a week it was something. I went to the library and made flyers to clean houses. I made $20 for 4 hours of hard work! I kept thinking though the entire time that I would make it. It has taken me 6 months to catch up the rent and utility bills, but I am finally able to say that I did what mattered most to me, to keep our home. Me and the kids don't worry about Christmas gifts, fancy coats or toys. We are so happy to still have each other and have a home to live in, that this will be our best Christmas ever. Just being here with each other and knowing that we held each other tight and made it though is a miracle in itself. I hope that everyone here finds what they are searching for and that you have a wonderful Holiday season and Happy New Year to come. God bless you all.
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DebbieinMissouri   in reply to SysBot   on

What's on your heart and mind today?

I am finding myself in unfamiliar territory today. I have always been

a friendly, caring person and in the last few days, I have been a little upset.

I just seen the new total for the aid to Haiti, which is 528 Million Dollars. I

cannot believe that with this much of our charitable dollars, being spent, unaccounted

for and used for nothing they were intended for, that people capable of helping others

can get on this page and insult real people in this country that have lost their jobs,

lost their will to keep going, and have no where else to turn. I have seen alot of

stories on here, most of them are very legitimate, and there is no other way to

network and find help if you do not seek it. Yes you can help yourself, but isn't

sometimes helping yourself, using your abilities to find help for your children when

you need it? Do you really think that a person will spend all of their time, telling their

hardship story, if they had a high paying job, and money in the bank to make it?

There are very few people that do this. Yes there are jobs out there, no they are not

easy to get. Sometimes people really just need a nudge to get going down the path

of the life that they are on. I heard once that even a trip of a thousand miles started

with one step.

Most of the people on here in need are not people that have lived their lives on welfare

or unemployment. You see very few people like that in fact, getting on the internet and

trying to get help. The ones that need help, are losing their homes, have no medication,

their children did not have Christmas gifts, they have none of their basic needs met.

Look at me. I am a completely normal, 43 old, divorced woman who never thought that

she would ever be divorced and unemployed. I never thought my children would not

have clothes that would fit, that we would go without toilet paper, that we had to make

a loaf of bread last 2 weeks, and that we suffered with the worst flu for 2 weeks because

we had no medicine, even something for a fever. Not everyone has family to call upon,

some of us has lost our parents, grandparents, husbands and wives. There is no one to

ask for help. There is no magic way, for someone with the desire and dream to be

someone different when they wake in the morning to make that happen without someones

help. I would love to wake up tomorrow and go to a new full time job. Maybe I would love

to wake up and go to my own business, and drive my children to school in decent clothes.

Maybe I would like to not worry when the electric company drives by that I am the next

person they will shut off.

If you are on here because you want to help or are capable of helping, do something.

Stop sending all of your good deed money to charities that do not help anyone. Send

someone $5, wish them well, pray for them. If every person on here that could help,

did that, then the others that really need it, might acually get a little bit of help to keep

going until other options in life open up.

I have no money. My long time bank account is left with 8 dollars, which I refuse to spend

because I do not want to lose the account. What do you think it is like to do that? If I

lose the account, my long time credit with the bank will be gone. Then where will I be next

year? If I leave the $8 in there, I will go without shampoo and laundry soap this month.

I have washed my clothes and hair with dish soap for weeks. People are really enduring

hardships here. They go without supper, so their children can eat. You lie awake at night

and think of all of the times you helped your kids, clean out the kitchen for canned goods

to help people that needed food, but noone helps you when you need it.

That is what is on my heart and my mind today.

I hope that everyone here gets their needs filled, their wishes heard, and I hope and pray

that everyone here that is capable of helping, just does some random acts of kindness and

takes a chance on someone they have never met.

I know some people will say, well no one ever helped me, I had to just keep trying.

That is a lame excuse.

I know some will say, what if I send them $5 and they just buy beer with it?

So what, you sent it, you put a postive effort towards trying to help someone and that

$5 was taking a chance on someone who would not by beer with it, maybe they would

open the envelope and come to tears, maybe they would use it for gas to apply for a job,

maybe they have not had something that seems so small to you but could be so big to

them, like deodorant, toothpaste, or medication.

I hope you place this in your heart and mind today.

I hope that you all have a wonderful spring day and open your heart to others.
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DebbieinMissouri   in reply to SysBot   on

What's on your heart and mind today?

Hello to all of my Aidpage friends, I have not been on here much for the last month,

I have been working my  new  job and enjoying every minute of having it.  I wanted to

say to everyone here, that if you go back and look at my blogs, the very first one I 

posted was about why I was on here.  I was a mom, that just got divorced.  I had lost

my job, and when I read what I wrote, it hardly sounds like something I would never thought

years ago that would  happen to me.  But it did.  I say this because, I still cannot believe

that on the internet their are millions of people everyday, and just a few come here new and

look around.  Someone came here and found me, and she took a chance.  She gave me the

help I needed to get through a terrible time in my life and I am now almost back where I  needed 

to be.   I hope and pray that every person that comes here with a true need will find what they

need to get going again.  I will never know what made her come here and how she noticed my

page, but she did and I am grateful.  I think daily how her kindness and caring showed my

children that there are still many good people in this world and that sometimes you get your

prayers answered.

What is amazing to me is this special woman who came to my need, was not rich by far.

I know that she probably went without to help me.  I spend alot of time thinking while I 

am working or driving how I could ever thank someone like that.  I am still searching for a

way, but thought that by writing this it would show that whoever took the time to make this 

website and all of the contributors that come here daily are making a difference to alot of

good people that have just fallen down a bit and needed picked up, you are all Angels to me

and I will always be grateful.

Have a blessed day and a wonderful Holiday Weekend!

Love Deb

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DebbieinMissouri   in reply to SysBot   on

What's on your heart and mind today?

I wanted to stop by real quick and say hello to everyone, I have

been working at my new job, ALOT! I feel very lucky to have found it,

but now I know how it feels to make the lowest wage paid in the country.

Here in Missouri, minimum wage is $7.25.  It is not enough for anyone to

even crawl out of poverty, it costs half of your pay to buy gas to get there,

maintain your vehicle and insurance to drive it.  So I figured at 40 hours per

week, minimum wage is paying for me to get to a job, and get home, but it

is not paying enough to pay to live.  If the prices of everything is going up,

why isn't the wages?  I feel so bad for the woman down the road, she is

84 and works at McDonalds to pay for her prescriptions.  She can barely hold

anything, her hands tremble so badly, and her Parkinsons does not allow her

to speak without her mouth trembling either.  But she goes to work, and tries to

keep going.  Bless her heart.  Her name is Doris, if everyone could keep her in their

prayers maybe something good will come to her.

I hope you all have a wonderful day, 

many blessings 

Debbie

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DebbieinMissouri  

What is going on?

The strangest thing has happened to me this week.  My 13 year old daughter

was not feeling well and I called the nurse line and they said that it sounded

like she should be tested for diabetes.  So we took the lab test, which was 

3 hours long, and I have no insurance so now I have a huge bill.  We had to

buy a blood sugar monitor and test strips, the tests and daily monitoring has

proved that she has low blood sugar, hypoglycemic, not diabetes at this time,

but here is what is strange.  The tester we had at home, was used by my

other 2 children just to see how it worked when we got it and my son and other

daughter both have had crazy blood sugar amounts this week, my son was 27

this morning and my daughter was 57.  What is going on with this?  How can

3 children all run low blood sugar everyday for the last week and not feel well.

They have been having hand shaking, not sure of the technical term for this, but

it looks like they can barely hold a pencil.  Upset stomachs, not being able to sleep.

What can cause this suddenly?  I am at a loss trying to figure it out and would welcome any 

advice anyone has.  I cannot take 3 children to the dr and have more lab tests with 

no insurance.  That would be terrible.

Thank you have a blessed day,

Debbie

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DebbieinMissouri  

What a beautiful day!!

The weather is so nice here in Missouri, sunny with the perfect breeze.

Today I went to a job interview and she had 2 more people to interview

after me.  She is sending out my reference checks and sent me to get

a TB test and drug test at the hospital.  After I got done with all of that

I came home and got my housework finished.  I hope everyone is doing

well, that you had a nice day and that good things come your way soon!

Take care, 

Debbie

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DebbieinMissouri   in reply to SysBot   on

What's on your heart and mind today?

I am finding myself in unfamiliar territory today.  I have always been

a friendly, caring person and in the last few days, I have been a little upset.

I just seen the new total for the aid to Haiti, which is 528 Million Dollars.  I 

cannot believe that with this much of our charitable dollars, being spent, unaccounted

for and used for nothing they were intended for, that people capable of helping others

can get on this page and insult real people in this country that have lost their jobs,

lost their will to keep going, and have no where else to turn.  I have seen alot of 

stories on here, most of them are very legitimate, and there is no other way to

network and find help if you do not seek it.  Yes you can help yourself, but isn't 

sometimes helping yourself, using your abilities to find help for your children when

you need it?  Do you really think that a person will spend all of their time, telling their

hardship story, if they had a high paying job, and money in the bank to make it?

There are very few people that do this.  Yes there are jobs out there, no they are not

easy to get.  Sometimes people really just need a nudge to get going down the path

of the life that they are on.  I heard once that even a trip of a thousand miles started

with one step.  

Most of the people on here in need are not people that have lived their lives on welfare

or unemployment.  You see very few people like that in fact, getting on the internet and

trying to get help.  The ones that need help, are losing their homes, have no medication,

their children did not have Christmas gifts, they have none of their basic needs met.

Look at me.  I am a completely normal, 43 old, divorced woman who never thought that

she would ever be divorced and unemployed.  I never thought my children would not 

have clothes that would fit, that we would go without toilet paper, that we had to make

a loaf of bread last 2 weeks, and that we suffered with the worst flu for 2 weeks because

we had no medicine, even something for a fever.  Not everyone has family to  call upon,

some of us has lost our parents, grandparents, husbands and wives.  There is no one to 

ask for help.  There is no magic way, for someone with the desire and dream to be 

someone different when they wake in the morning to make that happen without someones

help.  I would love to wake up tomorrow and go to a new full time job.  Maybe I would love 

to wake up and go to my own business, and drive my children to school in decent clothes.

Maybe I would like to not worry when the electric company drives by that I am the next

person they will shut off.  

If you are on here because you want to help or are capable of helping, do something.

Stop sending all of your good deed money to charities that do not help anyone.  Send 

someone $5, wish them well, pray for them.  If every person on here that could help, 

did that, then the others that really need it, might acually get a little bit of help to keep

going until other options in life open up.   

I have no money.  My long time bank account is left with 8 dollars, which I refuse to spend

because I do not want to lose the account.  What do you think it is like to do that?  If I

lose the account, my long time credit with the bank will be gone.  Then where will I be  next

year?  If I leave the $8 in there, I will go without shampoo and laundry soap this month.

I have washed my clothes and hair with dish soap for weeks.   People are really enduring

hardships here.  They go without supper, so their children can eat.  You lie awake at night

and think of all of  the times you helped your kids, clean out the kitchen for canned goods

to help people that needed food, but noone helps you when you need it.   

That is what is on my heart and my mind today.

I hope that everyone here gets their needs filled, their wishes heard, and I hope and  pray

that everyone here that is capable of helping, just does some random acts of kindness and

takes a chance on someone they have never met.  

I know some people will say, well no one ever helped me, I had to just keep trying.

That is a lame excuse.

I know some will say, what if I send them $5 and they just buy beer with it?

So what, you sent it, you put a postive effort towards trying to help someone and that

$5 was taking a chance on someone who would not by beer with it, maybe they would

open the envelope and come to tears, maybe they would use it for gas to apply for a job,

maybe they have not had something that seems so small to you but could be so big to 

them, like deodorant, toothpaste, or medication.  

I hope you place this in your heart and mind today.

I hope that you all have a wonderful spring day and open your heart to others.

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DebbieinMissouri   in reply to SysBot   on

What's on your heart and mind today?

It is a beautiful day here in Missouri.  I had an interview yesterday and they

checked my references and loved my enthusiasm, but said they were hesitant

to hire someone that lives 20 miles away.  I thought...what?????  20 miles is

not very far, it is actually way closer than any other job I have applied for and

that is their only reason?  I told them I have always had a good attendance 

record and that is not a problem to drive 20 miles, so they are thinking about it.

They would rather hire someone closer.  The other interview I had, was going

great and the owner of the company told me he would rather hire someone for

the position that does not have children.   Are you kidding me?   Everyone has

children.  Mine are not small and in daycare, they would not keep me from working.

I feel like I am going to fall apart!!!!  But I know eventually something good will come,

the news said today that a company near me is laying off 300 workers.  More people

will be looking for work now locally.  I feel bad for them as well, they had no notice.

I hope you are all enjoying your day!  Take care

Deb

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DebbieinMissouri   in reply to SysBot   on

What's on your heart and mind today?

 in response to Starshine...   

That is awful news! I don't watch tv very much, but I would

miss it if it was gone, when there is severe weather, I like keeping

the radar on.   Last night a storm blew through Missouri and this

one had very strong winds and blew one of my big trees into my

house.   It is one thing after another!

What state do you live in Starshine?  Maybe there is some way

to get a tv to you, there is a place here that has free furniture and

appliances.  I will check.  Have a blessed afternoon!

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DebbieinMissouri   in reply to SysBot   on

Aidpage group discussing "Unemployment"...

New website found for people that would like to help others or for

anyone needing help.  

I found it yesterday and the woman running it is amazing! 

She is still needing help with the site, but it is up and running,

www.giveahundred.com

Please spread the word to anyone you know.

Have a blessed evening.

Deb

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DebbieinMissouri   in reply to removed   on

Daily Inspiration

I am praying for you and your health Susie.  Please stay strong and may

many blessings come your way.

Debbie

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